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Connecting With Your Pre-Teen

As your child approaches the teen years and becomes more independent, staying connected may seem like more of a challenge. But it's as important as ever - maybe even more so now.

While activities at school, new interests, and a burgeoning social life become more important to your growing child, you are still home base, providing love, guidance, and support.

And that connection to you will provide a sense of security and build the resilience your child needs to roll with life's ups and downs.

What to Expect
Your preteen may act as if your guidance isn't welcome or needed, and even seem embarrassed by you at times. This is when kids start to confide more in peers and request their space and privacy - expect the bedroom door to be shut more often.
As difficult as it may be to swallow all these changes, try not to take them personally. They're all signs of your child's growing independence. You're going to have to loosen the ties and allow some growing room. But you don't have to let go entirely. You're still a powerful influence - it's just that your preteen may be more responsive to the example you set rather than the instructions you give. So practice what you'd like to preach, just preach it a little less for now.

Modeling the qualities that you want your preteen to learn and practice - respectful communication, kindness, healthy eating, and fulfilling everyday responsibilities without complaining - makes it more likely that your son or daughter will comply.

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